ORDERS OF LOVE - Healing the Family Tree
Constellations grew out of an approach pioneered by Bert Hellinger, a German systems philosopher and family therapist. Hellinger’s approach – initially called the Orders of Love – is an approach to healing that promotes constructive action and frees us and those we love from suffering.

Hellinger demonstrated the importance of the natural forces (or “orders”) that support or constrain the healthy flow of love in relationships. Ignoring these “orders of love” leads to consequences for family members, often over many generations, consequences that can blight lives and limit our potential in the world. We respond to these often invisible forces mostly unconsciously, furthering our own and others’ suffering.

Conventional therapy tends to focus on the individual who is manifesting the greatest distress or disturbance. But such approaches tend to ignore the subtle, often hidden, dynamics that occur within family systems as a whole. Constellations, and it’s “orders of love,” works with hidden dynamics in family systems, providing felt-experience that leads to insight and often restoring order in troubled family life.

ORDERS OF LOVE
The orders, identified by Bert Hellinger over year of observations and 1000’s of constellations, reflect natural laws or structures of systems that support the flow of love in families and energy in other types of systems. These orders reflect a profound respect for the truth and relate to time, place, belonging, function, and maintenance of the balance of give and take. Taken together and worked on within the framework of a constellation, they promote understanding and healing. By understanding the orders of love that govern relationships, by focusing on what makes us strong rather than weak, and by emphasizing the need for compassion and action, Hellinger’s work offers people a larger frame of reference that can open the way to life-enhancing solutions.

WHAT HAPPENS IN A WORKSHOP
At Turning Light Constellations, a family workshop involves about 20 people who create a confidential and safe environment for the work. The essence of the work involves people, acting as representatives of a specific family, being positioned in a special grouping, called a Constellation. The issue holder is able to step aside and witness the Constellator working to make the underlying dynamics more visible. This alone can enable one to move forward in life with a clearer understanding and a more open heart. Resolutions are also possible as transformational new perspectives emerge from the Constellation releasing the flow of love and energy. Working with historical family dynamics permits problems to be transformed in the present in a way which people experience as profoundly and permanently healing.

There are 3 ways you might take part:

1. As an issue holder, working a personal or professional issue.
   
2. As a volunteer representative in the Constellation of another participant. (This is NOT role playing.)
   
3. As an observer and sacred witness.

Generally, only 4-6 issues per day will be able to be worked; however, this work is profoundly moving for all persons watching and actively involved. Every heart is likely to be touched and each attendee will walk away enriched.

COMMENTS FROM PAST PARTICIPANTS

“I am still amazed and grateful for the work you did with me. What was uncovered still continues to unfold for me.”
– Laura in Minnesota.

“I have found that working with Darcy through the family Constellations has brought greater understanding into my life. I have empathy for and charity towards myself and my family, for the ways in which we have grown ourselves up together.”
– Roger in Ohio